Some of you might not know that in addition to being a psychic medium, author, spiritual lecturer, and professional pizza eater, I’m also a Life Coach. “Life Coach” is just a fancy term that means people have the option of shaking out their life and duping all their problems onto my lap like a 500 piece jigsaw puzzle. I’m only kidding (kind of). Seriously though – being a life coach is tricky business. It’s a high wire act that requires delicate balance. I need to be empathetic enough with my clients to sympathize and empathize with their struggles, yet tough enough to be honest and direct with them if they’re making poor choices in their life. AND, it requires being articulate enough to verbalize my thoughts and opinions without being too passive or too pushy. Like I said – it’s a high wire balancing act. But I love it. I love the responsibility (and challenge) of helping people put together the jigsaw puzzle that is their life and assisting them with finding more direction. A huge part of finding balance, direction, and happiness in life is to simplify; to rid ourselves of the things and stuff and materialism and excess that bogs us down and suffocates our soul. I’ve learned that people who live simply are the happiest people. Excess often leads to stress and dissatisfaction. More is not always a good thing (and too much of a good thing is not always good). Simply put – here is my Life Coaching 101 lesson on living a simple life.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. “Keeping up with the Jones’” is exhausting. (By the way, who the hell are the Jones’, and what makes them so darned amazing?) Be happy with what you have and with who you are. Envy is not an attractive quality, and besides, those who appear to have everything on the outside are not always internally satisfied.
- Declutter. Cleanliness is next to godliness, blah, blah, blah. We’ve all heard it before but it’s actually true. Clutter-free, organized spaces will lower your stress levels, help you find things easier, and help you sleep better at night.
- Get in the habit of saying “no” sometimes. People-pleasers often overextend themselves with obligations and responsibilities that, in the end, leaves them frazzled and overwhelmed.
- Quality over quantity. One or two REAL friends is more important than the 286 “friends” you have on Facebook. Don’t be so concerned with how many friends are in your life. Just make sure the ones you do have are high quality and add joy to your life rather than take it from you.
- Detach. From work stress. From toxic people. Even from your electronic devices. Detach. A free person is a happy person, and we’re often prisoners to our own smart phones and the negativity that spews from social media. A little alone time never hurt anyone, and you might be overdue for some “you” time. Detach for a bit and see if it helps.
- Figure out what activities make you happy . . . and then do them often! In an effort to keep things simple, you may want to narrow your list down to only a few things. For example, if reading, exercising, and baking are things that bring happiness into your soul, be sure to carve out some time to actually do those activities. But balance and moderation are key. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you have time for ten hobbies all in one week. Keep it simple.
- When it comes to new relationships, don’t bite off more than you can chew. The recently-out-of-jail bad-boy with five young kids, oodles of debt, and a mentally unstable ex-wife might be cute and charming, but entering into a situation that complex is sure to add more stress to your life than tranquility. Be smart. The healthiest relationships are relatively simple in the beginning. Don’t ignore red flags.
Although it’s unconventional to end here at number seven rather than go all the way to ten, I think I’ll “simplify” and quit while I’m ahead. See . . . I practice what I preach. A super long article is not a simple article, and I don’t want to overcomplicate the simple idea of simplifying. I hope you found these pointers helpful (or just an obvious reminder of things you already knew). At any rate, thanks for reading and have a simply wonderful day.